Do you like to handle conflict?  Or are you the first to turn your back and run away when you just sense a small disagreement coming up?  Most of my clients will choose the latter. Today I want to discuss the subject of conflict with you and share some of my thoughts on it with you.  I have NEVER met someone who LOVES handling conflict, but I have met people who like to create conflict or who are good at handling conflict.

All relationships have conflict or disagreement now and then. You cannot ignore it or avoid it forever.  I think it is healthy to have conflict.  I once heard a marriage counsellor who said if you don’t have disagreements in marriage, you have a problem!  The context for that opinion was that if you never have a disagreement, you probably live separate lives and don’t get to work on each other’s nerves now and then.  Ronald Reagan said peace is not absence of conflict.  I will get to the rest of his quote later. But peace can be fake.  You can keep the peace but have a war raging inside of you.  Good conflict resolution can GROW a relationship and if we keep on ignoring the issues that crop up now and then we rob ourselves from deeper, more fulfilling friendships and relationships.  I love the way Max Lucado puts it:

Conflict is inevitable, but combat is optional.

Max Lucado

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Part two of the inspiring interview with Charlotte Kemp, which focusses on how to have resiliency for difficult situations

Charlotte shares a very real failure during the interview Wilmien had with her and how she was able to get up and grow beyond her initial imagination.

Read on for ways to contact either Wilmien or Charlotte, click on the screen above to listen to the interview.

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A new dynamic guest, Charlotte Kemp Mulvey and I know you will be inspired listening to this interview.  Part 1 focusses on Futuristic Thinking

Wilmien and Charlotte addresses many topics around utopia, distopia and a realistic view of life as well as some futuristic thoughts around education.

Read on for ways to contact either Wilmien or Charlotte, click on the screen above to listen to the interview.

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Part two of my interview with Kyle Juffs

There is so much freedom in being vulnerable.  No one can use anything against you if there are no secrets.  You are normally your own biggest critic in these areas.  Be vulnerable and free yourself from the shame and the guilt. 

It is also important to have proper goals set out and proven methods to reach them.

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In this podcast  I discuss with you the impact your blind spots have on your life, why they are important and how to deal with it. But first I and you to listen to this poem. You might want to listen to it more than once.

Poem; The blind men and the elephant by John Godfrey Sax, narrated by Lillian Davis.

I hope you enjoyed this poem, narrated by my daughter of 11.  I can listen to it over and over again and each time my eyes opens up for my blindness towards a situations, where I only see a part of the picture and not the full picture.  Maybe it is so close or dear to me due to the time in life when I was technically blind.  I think blind people are more aware of their limitations than seeing people are and are more open to alternative views of the ‘’seemingly’’ obvious.  Blind people have to rely MORE on their other senses and people’s descriptions of things and might ‘’see” more than the rest of us.  I definitely experienced that my ‘’eyes’’ opened up for many other aspects of life during my struggle with vision.

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